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“a consequence of female self-love is that the woman grows convinced of social worth. her love for her body will be unqualified, which is the basis of female identification. if a woman loves her own body, she doesn't grudge what other women do with theirs; if she loves femaleness, she champions its rights. It's true what they say about women: women are insatiable. we are greedy. our appetites do need to be controlled if things are to stay in place. if the world were ours too, if we believed we could get away with it, we would ask for more love, more sex, more money, more commitment to children, more food, more care. these sexual, emotional, and physical demands would begin to extend to social demands: payment for care of the elderly, parental leave, childcare, etc. the force of female desire would be so great that society would truly have to reckon with what women want, in bed and in the world.” -naomi wolf
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i surround myself with women who ask for more. 🌻
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“a consequence of female self-love is that the woman grows convinced of social worth. her love for her body will be unqualified, which is the basis of female identification. if a woman loves her own body, she doesn't grudge what other women do with theirs; if she loves femaleness, she champions its rights. It's true what they say about women: women are insatiable. we are greedy. our appetites do need to be controlled if things are to stay in place. if the world were ours too, if we believed we could get away with it, we would ask for more love, more sex, more money, more commitment to children, more food, more care. these sexual, emotional, and physical demands would begin to extend to social demands: payment for care of the elderly, parental leave, childcare, etc. the force of female desire would be so great that society would truly have to reckon with what women want, in bed and in the world.” -naomi wolf • • i surround myself with women who ask for more. 🌻 .......................................................................... #igers_philly  #philadelphia  #philly  #benfranklinfriday  #phillygram  #feminist  #feminism  #cherryblossom  #centercityphilly  #sexpositive  #sexeducation  #sexed  #female  #liveauthentic  #sexblogger  #sexualhealth  #womenshealth  #intersectionalfeminism  #phillyunknown  #relationships  #communicate  #humansexuality  #sexELD  #pleasure  #clitoris  #confidence  #happyfriday  #pcpotd  #designboom  #lovewhatyoudo 
it’s STI awareness month and this year’s theme is “treat me right,” with a focus on improving the patient/practitioner relationship.
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i’ve written extensively on my disappointment with the gynecology field in assessing my abnormal bleeding issues this past year, but i also want to address my friends’ (note: plural) lack of care in testing options.
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there are a lot of questions and misconceptions surrounding sexually transmitted infections (stis), and many of them are not being addressed in our gynecologists’ offices. tests aren’t being offered. myths are perpetuated. judgements are sensed. shame is instilled.
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while education won’t teach professionals everything they need to know about stis, our culture fills in the gaps. and not in a good way. we’re afraid to tell our doctors for fear of what they may think. we’re afraid to tell our friends. and we’re afraid to tell our families.
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the @who reports that nearly 1 million stis are transmitted every day. each year, an estimated 357 million. and an overwhelming 500 million people are living with genital herpes.
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someone that you love has a sexually transmitted infection. read how to support them in my latest blog post.
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it’s STI awareness month and this year’s theme is “treat me right,” with a focus on improving the patient/practitioner relationship. • • i’ve written extensively on my disappointment with the gynecology field in assessing my abnormal bleeding issues this past year, but i also want to address my friends’ (note: plural) lack of care in testing options. • • there are a lot of questions and misconceptions surrounding sexually transmitted infections (stis), and many of them are not being addressed in our gynecologists’ offices. tests aren’t being offered. myths are perpetuated. judgements are sensed. shame is instilled. • • while education won’t teach professionals everything they need to know about stis, our culture fills in the gaps. and not in a good way. we’re afraid to tell our doctors for fear of what they may think. we’re afraid to tell our friends. and we’re afraid to tell our families. • • the @who reports that nearly 1 million stis are transmitted every day. each year, an estimated 357 million. and an overwhelming 500 million people are living with genital herpes. • • someone that you love has a sexually transmitted infection. read how to support them in my latest blog post. .............................................................................................. #igers_philly  #TiaAmbassador  #sexpositive  #sexeducation  #sexed  #femaleorgasm  #humansexuality  #sextherapist  #linkinbio  #relationships  #relationshipgoals  #couplesgoals  #couples  #feminist  #intersectionalfeminism  #pleasure  #talktia  #herpesdating  #clitorosity  #communication  #communicate  #sexblogger  #healthandwellness  #sexualhealth  #womenshealth  #stdawareness  #herpes  #stdmonth18  #TeamTia 
over the last two years, my perspectives of health and wellness have shifted. it’s more than just eating right and going to the gym. •
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between working full-time, grad school, my writing endeavors, managing multiple social media accounts, and just overall being my type-a emily self, my body holds a lot of tension. sure, foam rolling, yoga & release breaths help, but it isn’t enough relief. so i’ve started adding massage therapy into my routine.
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just a mental reminder to take one minute (just 1!) and scan your body. start with your fingers and toes, ankles and wrists. breathe into those seemingly little pieces of your body and notice if there’s any tension.
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it sneaks up on us. no matter how much yoga you do, or how healthy your diet is, the body will show itself and it’s emotions in our physical selves. the self we take to the gym. the self we are in the office. the self we are with our pals. the self we are in bed. we carry our day-to-day stories in ways that can easily go unnoticed.
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the universe has strange ways of manifesting our true selves, which is why it is so important to check in with our physical bodies and the energy that we carry. 🌻✨
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over the last two years, my perspectives of health and wellness have shifted. it’s more than just eating right and going to the gym. • • between working full-time, grad school, my writing endeavors, managing multiple social media accounts, and just overall being my type-a emily self, my body holds a lot of tension. sure, foam rolling, yoga & release breaths help, but it isn’t enough relief. so i’ve started adding massage therapy into my routine. • • just a mental reminder to take one minute (just 1!) and scan your body. start with your fingers and toes, ankles and wrists. breathe into those seemingly little pieces of your body and notice if there’s any tension. • • it sneaks up on us. no matter how much yoga you do, or how healthy your diet is, the body will show itself and it’s emotions in our physical selves. the self we take to the gym. the self we are in the office. the self we are with our pals. the self we are in bed. we carry our day-to-day stories in ways that can easily go unnoticed. • • the universe has strange ways of manifesting our true selves, which is why it is so important to check in with our physical bodies and the energy that we carry. 🌻✨ ........................................................................... #igers_philly  #peopledelphia  #liveauthentic  #rescuespa  #wellness  #healthandwellness  #wellnesswednesday  #destress  #spaday  #glow  #deeptissuemassage  #deeptissue  #cupping  #metime  #womenshealth  #sexualhealth  #sexpositive  #selfie  #selfcare  #relaxation  #randr  #mindbodygram  #yogaeverydamnday  #girlswholift  #sexblogger  #sexblog  #healthylifestyle  #bewellphilly  #treatyoself  #mindbodysoul 
part of being vulnerable is being real. what does “real” sex look like? sometimes it’s good, sometimes it’s average, and sometimes, things just don’t seem to move in the way you want them to.
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sex is so glamorized by the media and porn that we wonder if our sex is “normal.” typically, these films don’t incorporate the moments that we’d rather forget: awkward noises, conversations of content and sexual histories, or uncomfortable sex positions that cosmo guaranteed would be out of this world.
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i’m not bringing this up as a deterrent of “in the moment” sexual expression. just a reminder to drop our expectations and make way for conversations that reflect, and respect, our realities.
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part of being vulnerable is being real. what does “real” sex look like? sometimes it’s good, sometimes it’s average, and sometimes, things just don’t seem to move in the way you want them to. • • sex is so glamorized by the media and porn that we wonder if our sex is “normal.” typically, these films don’t incorporate the moments that we’d rather forget: awkward noises, conversations of content and sexual histories, or uncomfortable sex positions that cosmo guaranteed would be out of this world. • • i’m not bringing this up as a deterrent of “in the moment” sexual expression. just a reminder to drop our expectations and make way for conversations that reflect, and respect, our realities. ........................................................................... igers_philly #philadelphia  #sexpositive  #sexeducation  #sexed  #femaleorgasm  #humansexuality  #sextherapist  #sextherapy  #relationships  #relationshipgoals  #couplesgoals  #couples  #feminist  #intersectionalfeminism  #pleasure  #comprehensive  #clitoris  #vibrators  #clitorosity  #communication  #communicate  #sexblogger  #healthandwellness  #sexualhealth  #womenshealth  #vulnerability  #reality  #confidence  #sexELD  #communication 
i opened my inbox this morning to @merriamwebster ‘s word of the day: vulnerable. vulnerability has held significant meaning for me over the past few years. it’s grown into a word that is so bound to my identity that i doubt i can separate the two.
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vulnerable: (1) capable of being physically or emotionally wounded; (2) open to attack or damage
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by this definition, i open myself to being wounded. i am transparent in my emotions, a weakness to many. i am an apparent ‘easy target.’ this definition was unexpected. i imagined examples of resilience and strength, not messages of weakness and points of attack.
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i am the woman whose heart bleeds from her arms. i am the woman whose fists fill with ink when my emotions are too much to carry. i am the woman who will tell you her stories—the ones that developed my  character and brought with them buckets of embarrassment and shame. i am the woman who will fight time to be with what feels right. i am the woman who will wander the streets to find the perfect words to spell his name. the woman who will show up unannounced to claim her love. the woman who will recognize a slight difference in character, for better or worse. the woman who will love still.
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“you have to love. you have to feel. it is the reason you are here on earth. you are here to risk your heart.” i am resilient, i am proud, i am vulnerable, i am yours’.
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i opened my inbox this morning to @merriamwebster ‘s word of the day: vulnerable. vulnerability has held significant meaning for me over the past few years. it’s grown into a word that is so bound to my identity that i doubt i can separate the two. • • vulnerable: (1) capable of being physically or emotionally wounded; (2) open to attack or damage • • by this definition, i open myself to being wounded. i am transparent in my emotions, a weakness to many. i am an apparent ‘easy target.’ this definition was unexpected. i imagined examples of resilience and strength, not messages of weakness and points of attack. • • i am the woman whose heart bleeds from her arms. i am the woman whose fists fill with ink when my emotions are too much to carry. i am the woman who will tell you her stories—the ones that developed my character and brought with them buckets of embarrassment and shame. i am the woman who will fight time to be with what feels right. i am the woman who will wander the streets to find the perfect words to spell his name. the woman who will show up unannounced to claim her love. the woman who will recognize a slight difference in character, for better or worse. the woman who will love still. • • “you have to love. you have to feel. it is the reason you are here on earth. you are here to risk your heart.” i am resilient, i am proud, i am vulnerable, i am yours’. .......................................................................... #igers_philly  #peopledelphia  #vulnerability  #vulnerable  #connection  #lovers  #sexblogger  #sexpositive  #relationshipquotes  #relationshipgoals  #strength  #couples  #sexELD  #sexeducation  #sexed  #courage  #emotions  #loveislove  #herpesdating  #dating  #datingadvice  #feminist  #womenempowerment  #womenandcoffee  #mondaymotivation  #mondaymood  #coffee  #peopledelphia  #lovequotes  #writersofinstagram  #risk 
lately i have found myself asking, “what really IS ‘safe sex?’ in our adolescence, most of us were taught mean girls style: use condoms, don’t get pregnant, don’t get STIs.
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while these discussions are pivotal to discussing sex and sexuality with youths, there is a clear disconnect; the presentation needs to be reframed. •
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@sexpositive_families quotes marnie goldenberg who offers “sensational sex” as an alternative framework. she envisions “a generation of people who endeavor their sexual lives to be ones where they don’t have to compromise their needs or wants in order to please another person.”
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by offering pleasure and opportunity as a focal point of sexual discussions, we can allow future generations the space and autonomy to be better advocates for themselves and their sexual expression.
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a pleasure based approach would also offer risk as a part of every sexual experience, not just one associated with STIs and pregnancy. focusing on more positive, pleasure-based outcomes of sexuality would alleviate stigma of STIs for future generations.
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i don’t think this perspective should be exclusive to children and teens, either. the conversations should start there, absolutely. but some of the most important pleasure-based conversations need to happen among adults—not just for the sake of their children, but for the maintenance of their sexual lives, and the way in which they perceive others.
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lately i have found myself asking, “what really IS ‘safe sex?’ in our adolescence, most of us were taught mean girls style: use condoms, don’t get pregnant, don’t get STIs. • • while these discussions are pivotal to discussing sex and sexuality with youths, there is a clear disconnect; the presentation needs to be reframed. • • @sexpositive_families quotes marnie goldenberg who offers “sensational sex” as an alternative framework. she envisions “a generation of people who endeavor their sexual lives to be ones where they don’t have to compromise their needs or wants in order to please another person.” • • by offering pleasure and opportunity as a focal point of sexual discussions, we can allow future generations the space and autonomy to be better advocates for themselves and their sexual expression. • • a pleasure based approach would also offer risk as a part of every sexual experience, not just one associated with STIs and pregnancy. focusing on more positive, pleasure-based outcomes of sexuality would alleviate stigma of STIs for future generations. • • i don’t think this perspective should be exclusive to children and teens, either. the conversations should start there, absolutely. but some of the most important pleasure-based conversations need to happen among adults—not just for the sake of their children, but for the maintenance of their sexual lives, and the way in which they perceive others. ........................................................................... #liveauthentic  #igers_philly  #philadelphia  #peopledelphia  #relationship  #relationshipquotes  #relationshipadvice  #sextherapist  #sexualhealth  #dating  #safesex  #parenthood  #couples  #sextherapy  #lovelanguage  #sexpositive  #sexed  #sexeducation  #sexology  #feminism  #feminist  #pleasure  #womenshealth  #honesty  #consent  #communication  #parenting  #birdsandthebees  #adolescence  #thetalk 
“the anthropologist margaret mead concluded in 1948, after observing seven different ethnic groups in the pacific islands, that different cultures made different forms of female sexual experience seem normal and desirable. the capacity for orgasm in women, she found, is a learned response, which a given culture can help or can fail to help its women to develop.” - #naomiwolf
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i believe that a more comprehensive sex education will help explore mead’s conclusion, but there is much work to be done from a cultural perspective—and it starts with us. we receive messages about sex everywhere we turn—even when it isn’t necessarily apparent, we are always looking for messages to deduce to sex or sexual means. “everything is about sex except sex, sex is about power.” and where does the powers sit in this country? 
share your thoughts below⬇️
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“the anthropologist margaret mead concluded in 1948, after observing seven different ethnic groups in the pacific islands, that different cultures made different forms of female sexual experience seem normal and desirable. the capacity for orgasm in women, she found, is a learned response, which a given culture can help or can fail to help its women to develop.” - #naomiwolf  • • i believe that a more comprehensive sex education will help explore mead’s conclusion, but there is much work to be done from a cultural perspective—and it starts with us. we receive messages about sex everywhere we turn—even when it isn’t necessarily apparent, we are always looking for messages to deduce to sex or sexual means. “everything is about sex except sex, sex is about power.” and where does the powers sit in this country? share your thoughts below⬇️ ......................................................................... #igers_philly  #sexpositive  #boudoirphotography  #feminism  #beautyandboudoir  #sexblogger  #sexeducation  #shotsosensual  #philadelphiamodel  #boudoirinspiration  #orgasm  #feminist  #boudoir  #peopledelphia  #sexology  #sexed  #womenshealth  #sexuality  #hotisthenewblack  #relationshipblogger  #sexualhealth  #sextherapist  #arsenicmagazine  #humansexuality  #bodyimage  #sexeducator  #impliedmagazine  #sexologist  #sexeld 
what’s holding you back? i feel like we all can relate to the unspoken, yet binding, regulations of dating and connection.
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magazines say “don’t do ______, they might think you’re ______.” dont text twice, he’ll think you’re needy. don’t call them yet, they’ll think you want commitment. you sent that text two hours ago? too soon to send another text without looking crazy.
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we normalize, and to an extent, pathologize human emotion through these statements. and the large majority does not see this as a problem. we live in fear of what someone will think we are based off a text we send or a phone call we make.
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it’s easy to say, “if you miss someone, call them.” but oftentimes, these societal values creep in your mind. and i am just as guilty. sometimes it’s easier to send a text rather than a phone-call. sometimes I think to myself, “i don’t want to bother him more than i already have.”
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it’s not an easy mindset to overcome, but bringing awareness to where we are in addition to acknowledging and validating our emotions can help us conceptualize our true desires and put thought into action. your emotions are a valid experience.
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#liveauthentic #igers_philly #philadelphia #peopledelphia #relationship #relationshipquotes #relationshipadvice #longdistancerelationship #longdistance #dating #onlinedating #fear #couples #sextherapy #lovelanguage #sexpositive #sexed #sexeducation #sexology #feminism #feminist #liveinthemoment #intuition #honesty #genuine #communication #honest #emotions #emotional #mindfulness
what’s holding you back? i feel like we all can relate to the unspoken, yet binding, regulations of dating and connection. • • magazines say “don’t do ______, they might think you’re ______.” dont text twice, he’ll think you’re needy. don’t call them yet, they’ll think you want commitment. you sent that text two hours ago? too soon to send another text without looking crazy. • • we normalize, and to an extent, pathologize human emotion through these statements. and the large majority does not see this as a problem. we live in fear of what someone will think we are based off a text we send or a phone call we make. • • it’s easy to say, “if you miss someone, call them.” but oftentimes, these societal values creep in your mind. and i am just as guilty. sometimes it’s easier to send a text rather than a phone-call. sometimes I think to myself, “i don’t want to bother him more than i already have.” • • it’s not an easy mindset to overcome, but bringing awareness to where we are in addition to acknowledging and validating our emotions can help us conceptualize our true desires and put thought into action. your emotions are a valid experience. ........................................................................... #liveauthentic  #igers_philly  #philadelphia  #peopledelphia  #relationship  #relationshipquotes  #relationshipadvice  #longdistancerelationship  #longdistance  #dating  #onlinedating  #fear  #couples  #sextherapy  #lovelanguage  #sexpositive  #sexed  #sexeducation  #sexology  #feminism  #feminist  #liveinthemoment  #intuition  #honesty  #genuine  #communication  #honest  #emotions  #emotional  #mindfulness 
the elusive female ejaculation is not synonymous with orgasm. the two can occur simultaneously, OR apart from one another. per a discussion i had last night, this apparently isn’t common knowledge and i felt compelled to share what i’ve researched. •
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during my undergraduate studies, my major research project focused on the role that body image played in female sexuality, specifically orgasm. i tend to research topics that hit close to home.
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there is still heated debate amongst researchers about what female ejaculate really is, which doesn’t help women who are curious as to their bodies’ sexual responses. qualitative interviews among women who experience ejaculation show a variety of reactions to their fluids. some women are in awe, while others reflect feelings of shame and embarrassment.
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as humans, we want to see ourselves (all of ourselves!) represented, and i don’t recall ever learning about female ejaculation in any of my classes. Sayin (2012) found that there six (6) pathways to trigger an orgasm, and the female orgasm can be triggered in a whopping 63 different ways. 😱
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most of my current research interests are focused on sexually transmitted infections, specifically herpes, but this topic will always remain a close second for me. interested in learning more or sharing an experience or thought? share below or feel free to message me ☺️
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the elusive female ejaculation is not synonymous with orgasm. the two can occur simultaneously, OR apart from one another. per a discussion i had last night, this apparently isn’t common knowledge and i felt compelled to share what i’ve researched. • • during my undergraduate studies, my major research project focused on the role that body image played in female sexuality, specifically orgasm. i tend to research topics that hit close to home. • • there is still heated debate amongst researchers about what female ejaculate really is, which doesn’t help women who are curious as to their bodies’ sexual responses. qualitative interviews among women who experience ejaculation show a variety of reactions to their fluids. some women are in awe, while others reflect feelings of shame and embarrassment. • • as humans, we want to see ourselves (all of ourselves!) represented, and i don’t recall ever learning about female ejaculation in any of my classes. Sayin (2012) found that there six (6) pathways to trigger an orgasm, and the female orgasm can be triggered in a whopping 63 different ways. 😱 • • most of my current research interests are focused on sexually transmitted infections, specifically herpes, but this topic will always remain a close second for me. interested in learning more or sharing an experience or thought? share below or feel free to message me ☺️ ⠀⠀ ........................................................................... #igers_philly  #sexeducation  #sexed  #sexuality  #femaleorgasm  #ejaculation  #sextherapy  #sextherapist  #relationships  #relationshipgoals  #relationshipquotes  #dating  #datingadvice  #feminism  #feminist  #orgasm  #sexeducator  #sexblogger  #relationshipblogger  #samanthajones  #satc  #carriebradshaw  #sexandthecityquotes  #sexandthrcity  #sexology  #selflove  #knowledgeispower  #bodyimage  #womenshealth  #sexualhealth 
over the last year, i have been in this position, but it wasn’t an “ovary action.” it was out of frustration, misunderstanding, feeling isolated, and often, crazy. •
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after visiting multiple doctors, each with a different answer to the same gynecological concern, i became fed up with the current state of gynecology in this country and started extensive research of training requirements. after further discussion with friends, i know the inconsistencies and disappointments are felt by more than just me.
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i’ve joined on as an @asktia ambassador to assist in redefining the world of women’s healthcare. in a picture-perfect world, the number one trait in my ideal gynecologist would be a willingness to listen. a clear value in the knowledge i bring to the table as an expert of my body, and the ability to meet me halfway in my care—it is important to remember that the gynecologist’s opinion is not the only valid one in the examination room; we matter.
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if you are interested in reading further about my recent gyno experience and preliminary research, i wrote a blog post entitled, “we need to talk: what to do when your gynecologist doesn’t listen” in january, which can be found under the “words” section of my blog. .........................................................................
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over the last year, i have been in this position, but it wasn’t an “ovary action.” it was out of frustration, misunderstanding, feeling isolated, and often, crazy. • • after visiting multiple doctors, each with a different answer to the same gynecological concern, i became fed up with the current state of gynecology in this country and started extensive research of training requirements. after further discussion with friends, i know the inconsistencies and disappointments are felt by more than just me. • • i’ve joined on as an @asktia ambassador to assist in redefining the world of women’s healthcare. in a picture-perfect world, the number one trait in my ideal gynecologist would be a willingness to listen. a clear value in the knowledge i bring to the table as an expert of my body, and the ability to meet me halfway in my care—it is important to remember that the gynecologist’s opinion is not the only valid one in the examination room; we matter. • • if you are interested in reading further about my recent gyno experience and preliminary research, i wrote a blog post entitled, “we need to talk: what to do when your gynecologist doesn’t listen” in january, which can be found under the “words” section of my blog. ......................................................................... #igers_philly  #philadelphia  #womenshealth  #reproductiverights  #reproductivehealth  #sexualhealth  #sexed  #sexeducation  #sexpositive  #sexELD  #gynecology  #stdmonth18  #stdawareness  #stdawarenessmonth  #herpes  #sexblogger  #healthblogger  #feminist  #GynoGoals  #TeamTia  #OnTheBlog  #WeNeedToTalk  #sexuality  #sextherapy  #wellnessblogger  #AskTia  #ambassador 
it’s easy to forget that forward folds are a type of inversion. to the naked eye, they seem so simple, so easy. so “well, anyone can do that.” it is difficult to find challenge in the apparent simplicity. •
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have you tried doing 50 sun salutations in a row? are you actively engaging your muscles? are you bending your knees when necessary? is your crown an extension of your spine? are you checking your ego? and most importantly, are you breathing?
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it’s easy to look at a pose and figure out how to match what we think it should look like, but it’s difficult to determine desired sensations and effects. are we doing a pose to match the girl on instagram, or are we practicing in alignment with our bodies and minds (hint: this means you may need blocks and modifications).
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we can look at sexuality, specifically sex positions (or postures) and scripts, in a similar way. there’s the ever glorified kamasutra with seemingly endless positions and variations, and magazines like cosmopolitan that are always searching for the ‘next best thing’ in the bedroom, but how do these positions and really feel in our bodies? are these sexual scripts really benefiting us, or are they easy to follow because they are so widely accepted?
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certainly, i don’t have all of the answers, in yoga or sex, but i think these are important questions that aren’t always brought to the forefront: does your body feel comfortable in a certain position? what could make it better? is your pleasure accessible? how is your breath, and your presence affected?
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it’s easy to forget that forward folds are a type of inversion. to the naked eye, they seem so simple, so easy. so “well, anyone can do that.” it is difficult to find challenge in the apparent simplicity. • • have you tried doing 50 sun salutations in a row? are you actively engaging your muscles? are you bending your knees when necessary? is your crown an extension of your spine? are you checking your ego? and most importantly, are you breathing? • • it’s easy to look at a pose and figure out how to match what we think it should look like, but it’s difficult to determine desired sensations and effects. are we doing a pose to match the girl on instagram, or are we practicing in alignment with our bodies and minds (hint: this means you may need blocks and modifications). • • we can look at sexuality, specifically sex positions (or postures) and scripts, in a similar way. there’s the ever glorified kamasutra with seemingly endless positions and variations, and magazines like cosmopolitan that are always searching for the ‘next best thing’ in the bedroom, but how do these positions and really feel in our bodies? are these sexual scripts really benefiting us, or are they easy to follow because they are so widely accepted? • • certainly, i don’t have all of the answers, in yoga or sex, but i think these are important questions that aren’t always brought to the forefront: does your body feel comfortable in a certain position? what could make it better? is your pleasure accessible? how is your breath, and your presence affected? • • ............................................................................. #igers_philly  #womenshealth  #pleasure  #forwardfold  #forwardbend  #inversion  #inversions  #yogaeverydamnday  #yogi  #yogisofinstagram  #rawbeauty  #uttanasana  #sexblogger  #sexpositive  #sexeducation  #sexed  #sexeducator  #sextherapy  #sexualhealth  #selflove  #boudoirphotography  #beautyandboudoir  #healthblogger  #shotsosensual  #philadelphiamodel  #yogateacher  #implied  #impliedmagazine  #NYGyoga  #kamasutra 
granted, i am unsure of the study background (method, participants, etc.) but I appreciate this message.
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wanna get your o-face on with your partner(s), but are unsure as to how? show them. guide them. watch porn together. add toys. communicate. and above all else, own your pleasure.
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psa: it’s #stdawarenessmonth so take care of your sexual selves and make sure you and your partner(s) have been tested ☺️
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image and quotes via @beyondthetalk
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granted, i am unsure of the study background (method, participants, etc.) but I appreciate this message. • • wanna get your o-face on with your partner(s), but are unsure as to how? show them. guide them. watch porn together. add toys. communicate. and above all else, own your pleasure. • • psa: it’s #stdawarenessmonth  so take care of your sexual selves and make sure you and your partner(s) have been tested ☺️ • • image and quotes via @beyondthetalk ......................................................................................... #igers_philly  #philadelphia  #sexpositive  #sexeducation  #sexed  #femaleorgasm  #humansexuality  #sextherapist  #sextherapy  #relationships  #relationshipgoals  #couplesgoals  #couples  #feminist  #intersectionalfeminism  #pleasure  #comprehensive  #clitoris  #vibrators  #clitorosity  #communication  #communicate  #sexblogger  #healthandwellness  #sexualhealth  #womenshealth 
“there’s always another storm. it’s the way the world works. snowstorms, rainstorms, windstorms, sandstorms, and firestorms. some are fierce and others are small. you have to deal with each one separately, but you need to keep an eye on whats brewing for tomorrow.”
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despite our displeasure in the potential for snow in april, the weather is a reflection of the unpredictability of life. storms happen. the unexpected happens. and we need to prepare that our life plans (or our weekend ones) May not go the way that they were intended.
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the trick to our journeys is steering the ship through the waters we’re given, and opening our eyes to the magic. snow in april—what can this teach me about myself. i guarantee it is deeper than you think!
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#igers_philly #philadelphia #moodygrams #benfranklinbridge #benfranklinfriday #discover_phl #discoverphl #visitphilly #philly #phillygram #storm #foggy #foggymorning #discoverearth #myphillyphoto #pcpotd #philadelphiapulse #phillyunknown #peoplescreatives #liveauthentic #acceptance #sexblogger #215shooters #herpes #sexpositive #positivevibes #positivethinking #howphillyseesphilly #jj_philadelphia #april
“there’s always another storm. it’s the way the world works. snowstorms, rainstorms, windstorms, sandstorms, and firestorms. some are fierce and others are small. you have to deal with each one separately, but you need to keep an eye on whats brewing for tomorrow.” • • despite our displeasure in the potential for snow in april, the weather is a reflection of the unpredictability of life. storms happen. the unexpected happens. and we need to prepare that our life plans (or our weekend ones) May not go the way that they were intended. • • the trick to our journeys is steering the ship through the waters we’re given, and opening our eyes to the magic. snow in april—what can this teach me about myself. i guarantee it is deeper than you think! .............................................................................................. #igers_philly  #philadelphia  #moodygrams  #benfranklinbridge  #benfranklinfriday  #discover_phl  #discoverphl  #visitphilly  #philly  #phillygram  #storm  #foggy  #foggymorning  #discoverearth  #myphillyphoto  #pcpotd  #philadelphiapulse  #phillyunknown  #peoplescreatives  #liveauthentic  #acceptance  #sexblogger  #215shooters  #herpes  #sexpositive  #positivevibes  #positivethinking  #howphillyseesphilly  #jj_philadelphia  #april 
relationships are more than the labels society ascribes to them.
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i participate in a weekly twitter chat entitled, “tipsy chat.” the chat isn’t afraid to go deep, and often asks me questions  i otherwise may have avoided myself. this week, i found myself focusing on communication (groundbreaking, i know).
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if i have something to communicate—i say it. i’ve been the person who has attempted to save face to avoid being the “bad guy.” and you know what? it didn’t work. in fact it led to increased dissatisfaction.
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honesty and vulnerability have become two strong suits of mine since my herpes diagnosis in 2015. this experience was integral in my development of self advocacy.
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it’s funny, most people tend to build foundations of advice upon, “actions speak louder than words.” while i believe this to be true... words are so important to me. i use them as a resource, a reflection of different stages of life and relationships. i use them as a reminder of trust.
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i’ve been seeing the same person since 2016. i’ve known him since 2009 (😱). our relationship has evolved over the years. and we’re not who we were when we met, or who we were last summer, even. but if i have something to say, i say it. it either comes out as awkward word vomit, or a text that’s entirely too long for most to digest.
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despite my weird communication habits, he listens. and it goes both ways. he’s a talker, i’m a writer. communication isn’t always easy, especially when it’s asking expressing uneasy feelings, but it is necessary for our growth.
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relationship labels go beyond their societal expectations. communication doesn’t look the same for everyone, and neither do relationships. what works for me and my partner, might not work for you and yours’. but for me, words matter
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#igers_philly #relationshipgoals #relationships #relationshipquotes #couples #couplegoals #couplesofinstagram #sextherapy #sexology #sexpositive #sexblogger #dating #datingadvice #relationshipadvice #datingblog #intimate #intimacy #sexuality #loveislove #labels #communication #trust #herpes #emotions #committed #commitment
relationships are more than the labels society ascribes to them. • • i participate in a weekly twitter chat entitled, “tipsy chat.” the chat isn’t afraid to go deep, and often asks me questions i otherwise may have avoided myself. this week, i found myself focusing on communication (groundbreaking, i know). • • if i have something to communicate—i say it. i’ve been the person who has attempted to save face to avoid being the “bad guy.” and you know what? it didn’t work. in fact it led to increased dissatisfaction. • • honesty and vulnerability have become two strong suits of mine since my herpes diagnosis in 2015. this experience was integral in my development of self advocacy. • • it’s funny, most people tend to build foundations of advice upon, “actions speak louder than words.” while i believe this to be true... words are so important to me. i use them as a resource, a reflection of different stages of life and relationships. i use them as a reminder of trust. • • i’ve been seeing the same person since 2016. i’ve known him since 2009 (😱). our relationship has evolved over the years. and we’re not who we were when we met, or who we were last summer, even. but if i have something to say, i say it. it either comes out as awkward word vomit, or a text that’s entirely too long for most to digest. • • despite my weird communication habits, he listens. and it goes both ways. he’s a talker, i’m a writer. communication isn’t always easy, especially when it’s asking expressing uneasy feelings, but it is necessary for our growth. • • relationship labels go beyond their societal expectations. communication doesn’t look the same for everyone, and neither do relationships. what works for me and my partner, might not work for you and yours’. but for me, words matter .......................................................................... #igers_philly  #relationshipgoals  #relationships  #relationshipquotes  #couples  #couplegoals  #couplesofinstagram  #sextherapy  #sexology  #sexpositive  #sexblogger  #dating  #datingadvice  #relationshipadvice  #datingblog  #intimate  #intimacy  #sexuality  #loveislove  #labels  #communication  #trust  #herpes  #emotions  #committed  #commitment 
april is std awareness month. today also happens to be my annual gynecological exam.
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after seeing nearly six gynecologists over the last nine months (YUP), i can’t say that i am excited for this appointment. but i do know that it is necessary for my health and well-being.
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health goes beyond life in the gym. health is how we nourish our bodies. health is our hydration level. health is our intuitive sense and check-ins with our bodies—every part. health also involves seeking professional counsel.
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doctors can be intimidating, especially gynecologists. but gynecological health is a piece of our health puzzle. it’s just as important to check on our bodies outside of the gym, as much as we do pre and post-workout.
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it is also integral to come to these appointments prepared. did you know that if you ask to be “tested for everything,” herpes is likely not included in that panel per cdc recommendations. these little pieces of knowledge are crucial to guiding constructive and informative conversations with our healthcare providers. my current struggle seems to be finding ones who will listen...
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#igers_philly #sexeld #sexologist #sexology #sexpositive #sexblogger #womenshealth #sexualhealth #healthandwellness #wellnesswednesday #humpday #wellness #gynecology #STDMonth18 #herpes #herpesdating #vulnerability #pursuitofportraits #girlswholift #empowerment #girlsthatlift #portraitphotography #phillymodel #impliednude #bauthentique #boudoir #boudoirphotography #impliedmagazine #peopledelphia #implied
april is std awareness month. today also happens to be my annual gynecological exam. • • after seeing nearly six gynecologists over the last nine months (YUP), i can’t say that i am excited for this appointment. but i do know that it is necessary for my health and well-being. • • health goes beyond life in the gym. health is how we nourish our bodies. health is our hydration level. health is our intuitive sense and check-ins with our bodies—every part. health also involves seeking professional counsel. • • doctors can be intimidating, especially gynecologists. but gynecological health is a piece of our health puzzle. it’s just as important to check on our bodies outside of the gym, as much as we do pre and post-workout. • • it is also integral to come to these appointments prepared. did you know that if you ask to be “tested for everything,” herpes is likely not included in that panel per cdc recommendations. these little pieces of knowledge are crucial to guiding constructive and informative conversations with our healthcare providers. my current struggle seems to be finding ones who will listen... .......................................................................... #igers_philly  #sexeld  #sexologist  #sexology  #sexpositive  #sexblogger  #womenshealth  #sexualhealth  #healthandwellness  #wellnesswednesday  #humpday  #wellness  #gynecology  #STDMonth18  #herpes  #herpesdating  #vulnerability  #pursuitofportraits  #girlswholift  #empowerment  #girlsthatlift  #portraitphotography  #phillymodel  #impliednude  #bauthentique  #boudoir  #boudoirphotography  #impliedmagazine  #peopledelphia  #implied 
in a time when politics seemed surreal, i couldn’t help but wonder, did donald trump really tweet about sex and the city 😭
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thanks for the laugh @everyoutfitonsatc
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#igers_philly #philadelphia #satc #sexandthecity #carriebradshaw #teamaiden #teambig #charlotteyork #samanthajones #mirandahobbes #cynthianixon #sarahjessicaparker #sjp #sexandthecityquotes #sexandthecity2 #donaldtrump #zsazsazu #covfefe #feminist #intersectionalfeminism #intersectionalfeminist #feminism #carrieandbig #sexblogger #sexpositive #relationshipquotes #couples #sextherapy #couplesgoals #thefutureisfemale
in a time when politics seemed surreal, i couldn’t help but wonder, did donald trump really tweet about sex and the city 😭 • • thanks for the laugh @everyoutfitonsatc ⠀⠀ ................................................................................ #igers_philly  #philadelphia  #satc  #sexandthecity  #carriebradshaw  #teamaiden  #teambig  #charlotteyork  #samanthajones  #mirandahobbes  #cynthianixon  #sarahjessicaparker  #sjp  #sexandthecityquotes  #sexandthecity2  #donaldtrump  #zsazsazu  #covfefe  #feminist  #intersectionalfeminism  #intersectionalfeminist  #feminism  #carrieandbig  #sexblogger  #sexpositive  #relationshipquotes  #couples  #sextherapy  #couplesgoals  #thefutureisfemale 
rise and shine 🌞
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yesterday i drifted through the realm of human emotion. somewhere between fear, sadness, and love. being exposed to these in such a short time period, i can see why people shy away from tapping in, emotions are not all that easy to navigate. especially when they’re interwoven.
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but so is life. we’re thrown experiences that we can learn and grow from, or those that leave us choosing stagnancy. •
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there isn’t a “right” or “wrong” choice, as it’s more so an expression of desire. who am i? who do i want to be? what does this experience reveal? these questions are not so simple to answer.
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in consideration of such questions. setting intentions for my week is leaving me in a bit of confusion, trying to find a sense of control in the chaos—and knowing that i need to let go. {balance}
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#igers_philly #washingtondc #goodmorning #motivationmonday #mondaymotivation #mondays #yogaeverydamnday #yogisofinstagram #bowpose #Dhanurasana #yogi #sexblogger #sexology #sexologist #sexpositive #sexeld #emotions #feelings #relationships #couples #relationship #balance #sunrise_lovers #contentment #happiness #lifequotes #thoughtoftheday #fearless #sunrise #sunlight
rise and shine 🌞 • • yesterday i drifted through the realm of human emotion. somewhere between fear, sadness, and love. being exposed to these in such a short time period, i can see why people shy away from tapping in, emotions are not all that easy to navigate. especially when they’re interwoven. • • but so is life. we’re thrown experiences that we can learn and grow from, or those that leave us choosing stagnancy. • • there isn’t a “right” or “wrong” choice, as it’s more so an expression of desire. who am i? who do i want to be? what does this experience reveal? these questions are not so simple to answer. • • in consideration of such questions. setting intentions for my week is leaving me in a bit of confusion, trying to find a sense of control in the chaos—and knowing that i need to let go. {balance} ............................................................................. #igers_philly  #washingtondc  #goodmorning  #motivationmonday  #mondaymotivation  #mondays  #yogaeverydamnday  #yogisofinstagram  #bowpose  #Dhanurasana  #yogi  #sexblogger  #sexology  #sexologist  #sexpositive  #sexeld  #emotions  #feelings  #relationships  #couples  #relationship  #balance  #sunrise_lovers  #contentment  #happiness  #lifequotes  #thoughtoftheday  #fearless  #sunrise  #sunlight 
how often do we keep pieces of our “single-selves” hidden from our partners? is there anything that they don’t know? after significant periods of time have passed in a relationship, is there still a fear of some of theses “secret single behaviors” arising?
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how often do we keep pieces of our “single-selves” hidden from our partners? is there anything that they don’t know? after significant periods of time have passed in a relationship, is there still a fear of some of theses “secret single behaviors” arising? • • if so, is this an indicator of a healthy relationship? or one that hasn’t reached “comfortable?” ⠀⠀ ................................................................................... #igers_philly  #philadelphia  #sexandthecity  #satc  #sexuality  #relationshipgoals  #relationshipquotes  #relationships  #carriebradshaw  #sexblogger  #sexpositive  #relationshipcoach  #couplesofinstagram  #couplestherapy  #lovelanguage  #weekend  #secretsinglebehavior  #ontheblog  #relationshipblogger  #womenshealth  #secrets  #trust  #marriage  #marriagetips  #loveislove  #engaged  #wellness  #sunday  #sharethelove  #shareyourstory