“Self-care.” Don’t let the marketing teams fool you - they slap this label on anything and everything these days. “Self-care” is washing your hair when you’re depressed, it’s vacuuming your apartment so you don’t walk around on crumbs, it’s eating real food instead of an entire box of Lucky Charms (which I definitely did on Friday). Self-care is taking care of your body and spirit so you have the energy to attack the busy days. I love skincare and beauty products - a LOT (just ask my daily 14-step skincare routine). But a $12 Dr. Jart mask won’t take “care” of me. There’s nothing wrong with spending money on fun, frivolous things that make life more joyful. But don’t get caught-up looking for “self-care” in stores. It’s in your fridge, at your gym, behind your closed eyes when you went to bed at a reasonable hour.
This isn’t a lecture; this is a reminder to myself.
Mark April 23rd, 7:30 on your calendar to see these incredible role models share their stories at The Legacy Show #013 , “How To Find Love”. You know you want to see @MelanieCurtis11, #SusanWinter , @KimraLuna, and @MichaelIanCedar! Tickets are available online at EventBrite.com or by clicking the link in our bio. How many of you are we seeing tomorrow?
I am a stresser and a planner and a visual person. It’s officially crunch time and there’s so much to do, it’s hurts! In my life, balance is SO unbelievably hard. After I got hurt running, I let my health go to the waste side and I didn’t care. But, now I’m crawling and fighting my way back! I don’t pretend things are always perfect, nor is it always seamless or fun, but I am TRYING really, really hard and that’s what it’s all about and it’s WORTH IT!!! During crunch time, workouts were always the first thing to hit the chopping block! But not anymore! I might still be stressed, but I can SEE what I have to do and when and I then I can PLAN and get that balance that I so desperately want and need! I’m not perfect. This schedule isn’t perfect. But I am proud and not replacing effort with excuses! 🎉😘👍💪••• #typeA#exercise#plan#calendar#crunchtime#getitdone
You mean this R+F gig isn’t just for bored stay-at-home moms? You mean this isn’t just for people who want to make money off of their friends? You mean people who DON'T need the money are doing this too?
This is Dr. Melissa Kuo King. She joined R+F 3 1/2 years ago. She’s a mom of 3 and an Infectious Disease doctor with her own private practice, rounding multiple hospitals in Orange County, CA.
BUT she recently retired from medicine. Her story in her own words: “So many hats we wear. Mom. Wife. Sister. Daughter. Doctor. Leader. Follower. Procrastinator. Cheerleader. Friend. Counselor. Overthinker. Hanging up one of my hats for a season.... yes, I left my medical practice officially as of today. Definitely not easy for me. Medicine is a calling I believe, and I devoted a large portion of my life to training in this profession, helping and serving others, a lifelong learner in studies, people and the human physical condition, specifically as it pertains to my specialty in infectious diseases. I have gone through #allthefeels for lack of a better term, back and forth. It is something Bryan and I have prayed and talked over for hours, days, weeks, months. I’m not sure exactly what it will look like or how long, and that’s one of the hard parts #typeA#controlfreakrighthere . Maybe I’ll be back in 10 years or 10 months in a different capacity. But what I do know is that I’ve been blessed with 3 amazing, beautiful people who call me “mommy,” one incredible person who calls me “wife” and an unlikely opportunity to impact more people than I ever dreamed possible alongside like-minded and like-hearted individuals right now, so I will be faithful in where I’m being called in the moment. Today. Right now. Knowing who holds the future. What hats will you be donning and doffing in 2018??” This is her unique story. Please search “R+F IDS” for info re: typical results.
Super late in sharing but better late than never.
I take pride in sharing the good news that the Indian College of Physicians, the Academic Wing of the Association of Physicians of India has designated my father, Dr. Anup Kumar Das as Fellow in recognition and appreciation for his outstanding contribution to the Association of Physicians of India... A moment of glory for the family.
Welcome to the ‘fellow gang’. Remembering when my grandmother was designated Fellowship by the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists, London.
Missed this iconic moment :( Ok I got to pull up my socks to keep up with these over achievers in the family. 🙈💃🏼💪🏻😳🙏🏻 #dad#hero#daddysgirl#fellowship#doctor#typea#hustle#awards
So, as I sit here prepping my living room to paint, I am pondering this....
“What if I practiced nursing (I was an RN for 18 years) like _____ (fill in the blank). People often make fun of me, say I am #OCD (I’m not and sorry if you suffer from OCD) or that I am #typeA personality.
What I realize is, there are different people, who complete tasks in different ways... personally if you take on a task, take the time to #doitright . There is #nothingworse that #completing a #task just to #getitdone#halfass
Curious how OCD people pack for vacation? Here you have it folks. All three of us in one suitcase, boom👊🏼 If you missed my stories yesterday and want to see how I pack in detail let me know 📥 #ocdlife#typeA#vacationprep#disneybound
Day 4- Dynamic Core🔥
Neither little angel wanted to nap today so they both hung out with me while I took 30 min for myself⭐️
Being a control freak, I am learning to really love exercise and nutrition because I CAN CONTROL IT!!😂 I control if I exercise and what I do and I also control what I eat/drink everyday.
Regardless of circumstances, upset babies, struggles eating/gaining weight for Ben, Remi is getting a cold, dog left muddy footprints all over🙄, husband in a different country and some days I can’t even talk to him😑
None of that I can control!!! But I can control how I respond to it and my exercise/nutrition!!! So I will control the crap out of what I can, and try to let go of the rest✌🏽❤️
Ps, yes these are not the best angles and you can see a lot of cellulite/jiggle....but I’m about being real and this is really me, bad angles and cellulite🤘🏽 and I’m still a BAMF💥 Happy Saturday!
Day 3 Rip’t Circuit🙌🏽
Possibly the best workout of my entire life! I was SO PUMPED when I saw we were going to be using some weights today!!!
1) Those plank jumps to one legged burpees tho😜☠️☠️☠️
2) Deadlifts to curl and squat😅😅😅 I know my form isn’t perfect, I’m working on it! It feels awesome to strengthen my lower back as well!
Such a gloomy nasty day here, cold, raining, cloudy but it’s nice and hot inside my kitchen with @shaunt 😂
I think to succeed in fitness you have to find something you LOVE DOING! Whether that’s running/yoga/weight lifting/Zumba/ you name it...if you enjoy doing it, it makes it a lot easier to start, and once you start it makes it a lot easier to keep going!❤️
Me personally, I love weight lifting but I also love cardio/plyometric workouts where I’m left out of breath and drenched in sweat!😅 (see my tank top😂😂😂)
So this program is Perfect for me because it’s a mix of both! And I LOVE Shaun T, he makes me laugh everyday and really knows what to say to keep you motivated when you feel like quitting!
Long story short- find some type of exercise you ENJOY doing, and then...DO IT!😄
Stay in your lane 🚗 I need to remind myself that ALL THE TIME, especially when I see others crushing it at step 100 and I’m only on step 3. These are thought patterns that can be unlearned just like they were once learned. Here’s what I do to keep those self defeating thoughts in check: ➡️ Visualize your WHY
➡️ Blast some motivating tunes
➡️ Physical activity ➡️ Mantra on repeat: my lane is awesome .
🤚& a 💋 to all my overachievers our here!
Start spreadin the news! The Type A Lady is in New York!
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People are beautiful and polished here. I’m not. I’m awkward and always look…not quite finished.
My daughter and son-in-law are two of the beautiful people. I’m trying to clean up my act so I don’t create a scene as I spend time with them. This is fun! We go to a ritzy restaurant. I glance at the elegant people around me (looking aloof and sparkly). I suddenly realize they are, in fact, God’s kids just like me. It doesn’t matter where we are or what we look like, we’ve got a Dad who loves us. That thought is so comforting. #typea#travel#newyork#god#comfort#alwayswithus
I don’t like being mediocre and I for sure have a Type A personality. Years ago, after I realized this, I took it as a badge of honor. Because I made straight A’s and excelled at just about anything I tried, I was proud of my perfectionist nature. And that’s when the anxiety and disordered eating appeared. It took me YEARS too notice the correlation.
Years of telling myself that I had to be THE best caught up with me.
Years of having unrealistic expectations took its toll.
After years of trying to be perfect, look perfect, be the best, and hiding disordered eating, I started to love my self and my life.
I attribute it to several things:
I ceased expecting perfection from myself. I gave myself a little more grace here and there.
I stopped comparing myself to other people. Of course I catch myself doing it still. But now, I’m aware and can actively tell myself to shut that shit down.
I credit the radical #selflovemovement for encouraging people to do the things that are fun and not so fun (e.g. fueling your body well, naps, skincare, intentional movement - AKA balance!)
ANYWAY, all of that to say you can give yourself grace and STILL do things that impress you and that you are proud of. I climbed Pinnacle twice yesterday, with minimal stopping, for the first time. Yes, there are lots of people who do that all the time. But until yesterday, I was not one of them.
This week has kind of been a roller coaster of emotions — kid stuff, work stuff, tired, stressed. Stress has always been a trigger for me with bad food choices and while I haven’t totally gone off the rails during my 80 Day Obsession break I haven’t been on point either (lots of eating out) and my body is feeling it with lots of aches and pains. I’m still pushing play each day (cause it’s my therapy) but I’m really missing the structure and discipline of the program I just finished. I’m actually pretty excited to start it again on Monday. Until then I’ll leave you with my white girl dance moves to brighten your day!
Be. Here. Now.
Happy Friday! And if your mind is already racing ahead to the weekend or ahead to everything you need to get done today, before you can relax, then this is a great phrase to hold onto. Because right here right now is all we ever have. Constantly thinking about the future is what causes us so much worry and anxiety. So when you are raving ahead keeping coming back to the here and now with this phrase. I hope you have a lovely day and would love to hear what you get when you do this right now 👇🏻🙏🏻
Anyone else out there an obsessive planner and list-maker? Anyone else out there also completely delusional about how much they can ACTUALLY accomplish in a given day? I seem to always forget the fact that SHIT HAPPENS. Yes, if everything went smoothly with zero interruptions I could probably fit my work into a neat 8 hour shift... but let's be honest, the times I have to make an emergency run to the grocery store or re-make a recipe that's not quite right or deal with some supplier issue or customer request or run into computer problems are far too numerous to count. And let's not forget about those days that no matter how hard I try I just seem to be moving at turtle speed! Don't get me wrong, I love what I do... but sometimes when the perfect storm of overambition collides with unexpected delays... shit can get ugly! I guess what I'm trying to say is: here's to lists and their false promises 🥂😂 I hope I can set some more realistic goals for myself or hire someone soon!