Recently people have asked me why I share art that deals with the harshness and darkness of life: Things like abuse, depression, mental health, rape, social commentary pieces, and the like.
The answer is as simple as it is complex: What is not expressed is not healed. What is hidden continues to cause shame. What is not released continues to cause grief, to be numbed, to affect oneself and others in the way we see the world and interact with it. Because the only way that stigma gets broken, the only way that cycles of trauma end with the current generation, the only way we move forward is to feel and express.
I make gritty work to express what for so very long it was unsafe to express. Can I make pretty work? YES! And I do; but that is not the only work that has value. It takes ZERO courage on my part to share "pretty" work. It takes a lot of courage and vulnerability on my part to share what is raw and tender.
I'm not looking for awards or medals; there is no merit badge for having crappy things happen to you. I share because I refuse to hide any longer. I share because maybe, just maybe my moments of vulnerability will help someone else.
That is why so-called "ugly and disturbing art" has its place. Ask yourself what you've been hiding and leaving unexpressed, then find a way to express it.
I kinda like to say the romance genre chose me. Years and years and years ago (I'm aging myself, here) a friend of mine had a *cough cough* dream about a famous rock 'n roller. She tried to describe it to me but couldn't very well, and said, "You're good with words, you could write this better than I could ever tell it." So ... I wrote it. 🙊 And she freaked out. And sent it to a bunch of her friends. And begged me to write more.
All of a sudden I had a blog for my fan fiction stories (🙈) - with nothing but praise by readers for my work, and over 65,000 hits to the blog, I was encouraged (more like threatened) by a friend to submit to a publisher. So ... I did. (I'm not easily influenced, I swear! 😂) I enjoy writing in the romance genre ... both erotic and not. I love getting a reaction out of my readers and making their hearts flutter a little. I write other genres too ... paranormal, mystery ... but there is always a bit of romance to be had! 😍😍 #qanda#questionandanswer#questionoftheweek#friday#romance#thebigwhy#romancewriter#eroticromanceauthor#readersofinstagram#readersofig#readers#authorsofinstagram#author#writersofinstagram#authormadisonnight
It is my pleasure to take photo with Ms Annie Tan (Senior Manager of Business Learning and Development Care, Director of MBA Program, 18 years of experience in Public Mutual) who shared about why #TheBigWhy and #Goal you set is so important tonight. Thank you so much for sharing so much examples and clues to be success.
Everyone knows that what are the characteristics, behaviours, attitudes and habits of a successful person, but how many of us really take action?
“If an egg is broken by an outside force, life ends. If broken by an inside force, life begins.”
So, remember this, great things always begin from the inside.
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This was my first outing as a mum of 4. Marly was just a couple of weeks old. I was so tired but SO bloody proud! 4 kids in 4 years was EPIC!
I just sat down for the 1st time today exhausted wondering why I always seem to take on such A LOT and was flicking through some photos for some mindless distraction. This one jumped out at me and reminded me why. These 4 little munchkins.... my babies 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 suddenly I feel like the luckiest person in the planet again. ❤️❤️❤️ #perspective#thebigwhy#motivation#myfamily
“Within every uncertainty there is a hidden possibility”~Steven Furdick..... know that your timing is everything; as I’ve become comfortable in my own faith; I know the timing is right when the fear of not moving or inaction outweighs the fear of just doing it; and for every time I stepped out; as scary as it was, he met me there and the outcome was so worth the risk.... take calculated, strategic, risks; knowing that Faith requires calculated Action; faith is not passive; it’s strategy in action! Dare to be different! #challengeyourself#workyourfaith#elevateyourworship#thinkbigger#dreambig#thebigwhy