Single Parent Discrimination ... 😬
I’ve spent quite a few days going deep into the idea of discrimination against single parents when it comes to renting properties. I know it’s a big word and it’s a heavy sentence with a myriad of emotional justifications, excuses, denials and plain #IGotNoIdea responses from those that handle the rental market 🤭
From my experience it took a long time to get a rental on my own as a single mum of two and I was up against why they call ‘family applicants’ which is the nuclear family of mum and dad and kids. #FrustratingTimes
I’m interested to get opinions on this from you, my followers about your opinions or experiences. Do you think this exists or is it a misused term and why?
I think we’ve all been in this place at some point. It could have been a friend, a company, a church or a partner responsible for the rejection and betrayal but the result was the same, never putting your worth again in the hands of someone else. Your worth is so sacred and unique, to live with an expectation that others will fully comprehend it is foolish at best. Know your worth and operate from a place of love. You are worthy.
Feel it. 💔
Feel what you need to, stop packing it away, bring it to the surface, let it out, own it, explore it, don’t be afraid. They are just emotions, YOU ARE SAFE, they may hurt, but it will be temporary, once you allow yourself to feel and accept them you can release them. You can find freedom in no longer being weighed down by the heaviness of the armour you wear to protect yourself and let your skin soak in the sunshine. ❌⭕️ #worthywidow#selfworthbuildsresilience#lovefearlesslylivefully
The distance is hard. The nights away are long. I can’t lie I worried for a time about him losing connection given how young she is... but I was worried for nothing. It’s not ideal. If only we had a private jet. But we are making it work and she loves her Daddy the absolute mostest ❤️ when he’s around she wants no one else 😍 @jordandoering #daddysgirl
Thank you to @mamamiaaus for the opportunity to showcase @shareabode and my single parenting journey so far #MakingSomeWaves
Each bit of exposure goes a long way to creating awareness, getting sign ups which build the database which give me a chance to match single parents for house sharing. And this is starting to happen #Celebrations
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C O N S O L E & P E A C E
Deployments suck! Whenever daddy leaves, there are just so many things that change for me and my daughter, things that we have to get readjusted to, like routines, schedules and new activities; and situations that we both have to face without him that can be scary sometimes.
Emotionally, deployments are very tough! For me, doing this #soloparenting is just plain hard and exhausting. And for her, it’s just sad not to have her daddy home, not being able to grasp the concept of time and know when he will be back, or even understand why daddy has to leave in the first place. There are definitely good days, but there are some very tryinug days as well. I’m just so glad this is almost over, and so, so #thankful for these two oil blends, because they have been a huge emotional support for us these past few months.
💜 Console has been a huge help for when Victoria feels frustrated, sad, and angry but doesn’t know how to express her feelings, and it all just explodes into a big tantrum. This blend helps dispels feelings of sadness and grief, and promotes feelings of hope and comfort so we can move forward.
💙 Peace has helped me to remain calm when I’m feeling extremely overwhelmed by this solo parenting, and just running out of patience. This blend promotes reassurance and brings a sense of safety and security, while helping release feelings of worry and fear. ...
**Deployments have taught me many different things on many different levels. But they have definitely taught me to have much respect, admiration, and appreciation for single moms. Sending lots of love and blessings to you!
How do you want to feel in your life? Ask yourself where do you feel most alive, when do you feel free and amazing? How can you make that a place that you spend more time in? Maybe it’s not something you can do tomorrow but you can always start making small steps to get closer to it. Write down how you want to feel in all the areas of your life and small changes you can make to get you closer to being there consistently. If your throwing up roadblocks of why you can’t, your stuck and need to work on reconditioning your thoughts. We all have endless opportunities!! ❌⭕️ #worthywidow#selfworthbuildsresilience#lovefearlesslylivefully
We have had the hardest few weeks with behaviour. There's been yelling, feet stomping, appalling behaviour, tantrums, tears, outburst of anger, ignorance, attitude, name calling and just standard destructiveness! I've cried many many times, complained to anyone who would listen, and walked around In an utterly stonker of a mood. Lack of routine definitely didn't help due to the half term holiday. I've searched and searched several times for tips, methods and hints on how to improve the behaviour but I just felt like I was banging my head against a brick wall. Monday we hit rock bottom. It was needed. I read an article something along the lines of this quote and realised the behaviour isn't just because she wants to behave that way it's because she wants a reaction, to get my attention. Having a very demanding baby who constantly needs me for something has taken its toll on her and the mom guilt is huge but I've come to realise it's totally fixable. Yesterday was a much better day, there was no yelling, no time outs and I mostly saw the little girl l know and love! Ignoring the outbursts and misbehaving and over commending even the smallest of good things is definitely something I will continue to do! Solo parenting, sleep deprivation and a clingy whingy baby makes it all that much harder but we do what we gotta do...even if it means neglecting your housework, shoving that huge piece of cake in your mouth or simply just taking 5 to yourself...We do it!
Working like mummy 💛 #parentinggoals to raise a MCOC (Male Champions of Change)
We need more decent, powerful men to step up beside women in building a gender equal world. #mcoc
We need men, our fathers, partners and sons, to stand by us and actively speak up on equality and parity for change to occur any time soon. We need to engage our partners in the conversation at home on active co-parenting to share the load of raising a family. The sooner it doesn’t fall predominantly on the woman’s shoulders, the sooner we will see an enforced shift in culture in the workplace. And because 94% of leadership roles are held by men, it is these men at the top who will initiate the culture shift whereby flexible work and family-friendly workplaces become the norm.
“It’s not like we are founders in our twenties with nothing to lose; we have everything to lose. It's ok to run your own race." - Dr Carla Harris
Inspiring morning talking tech, resilience, success and bouncing back on the start up journey with @shestartsau
What a powerhouse panel of Nicola from @bluechilligroup and @shestartsau Megan from @shinyhappyhealthy Carla from @longevity_app and Anita from @microsoftau
Got my “game on” face in today. #IMeanBusiness
I’ve spent the day connecting win a few of our users and getting tons of information on the process of the site so stayed tuned for some changes coming to the site and to your inbox that help with ease of listing and a big incentive as a prize giveaway to create a listing coming to you at the end of this week #LoveToLoveYou
Before I became a mum I was a frequent and passionate dirt bike rider. Yup, most weekends you would find me in The Wattagans State Forest (Central Coast NSW) on my KTM 2 stroke #DirtBikeRider
Dirt bike riding was my form of meditation, my stress release and invigorated me for the week ahead. It was an intense past time I know but I have never been one to shy away from the hard stuff because the feeling after you get is incomparable #AdrenalineRush
I wonder if my kids both get this need for crazy daredevil delights from me? Yeah, I’d say so because even though I’m not dirt bike riding right now (I plan to when my little one is older) I am as a single mum and business owner still pushing my limits daily
Do your kids ever make a piece of art that floors you for some reason? I see this & I see color, joy, light. My baby girl has 1,000,000 reasons to be sad with her daddy gone - yet in her innocent, joy filled heart she isn’t. She’s happy. She has her moments of grief, but most of the time she’s thriving. & I can too (by the way I wrote a post allll about this on the blog this week #soloparenting ) ❤️ I am so impressed with her heart & what comes from her soul, like this beautiful chalk drawing. (Thank goodness for @artkiveapp or i wouldn’t have been able to capture and store this!) 🙌🏻
21:47 and both sprogs are finally asleep (just)... enough time to shower, clean up and prepare for it all again tomorrow. One week in of deployment and I’m shattered. Thank goodness for places like Farmer Palmer’s where you can easily spend a day exploring, learning and playing.