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The courage to persist when facing failure or rejection is most often highly praised and advised however what if persistence is the least wisest use of our courage?
The most common cause of suffering and pain and perhaps the greatest waste of time and energy I have observed in my 20 years of working with people, is persisting in the face of rejection. When we keep banging on a wall hoping it will open like a door we stir the deepest of our fears of unworthiness and shame. Whether it’s fighting in a workplace that is causing you pain and suffering in the expectation that it must and should change, or whether for you this is a person or goal. Learning to surrender our weapons on the battlefield acknowledge that during a long and well lived life many battles are lost, we can regroup and muster our strength to head towards new directions.
Authentic acceptance replaces resignation - the near enemy of acceptance. We accept what is being revealed to us, that for now this battle is not ours, and for the real war to be won, we must accept the futility of trying to change a person or a situation.
It is through this acceptance that we may all slowly develop a deeper respect for one’s self, find dignity and grace to move forward, having lost but not being a loser.
Have faith. We only lose what is not worthy of us.