Sometimes, love is... walking away from unhealthy relationships.
Being a divorcèe doesn’t have to be difficult. I know since I’ve been there, just like you (2 times in my case). So sign up to doingDivorce School by going to the link in my bio.
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Something you may not know about me: I kicked my dad out of the house when I was 24 years old after he threatened to kill my mom.
Toxic people and abuse have been a big piece of my life. This is the reason I'm so passionate about teaching! I don't want anyone else to have to go through the pain my family has seen.
So, SO much heartache can be avoided if we simply take the time to educate ourselves as to what a healthy relationship actually is ❤️ #bullying#relationships#bullies#realtalk#relationshipgoals
So often we choose toxic circumstances over growth, freedom, and overall well-being..but why? 🤔💭
Is it external validation you seek? Did someone show you at a young age (or any) that sacrifice of personal health to any extent is the only equivalence to “love”? Or perhaps you’ve indulged in a few too many romance novels/movies over the course of your life? Whatever the reason - do you feel safe and confident about the decisions you’re making? Do you feel reciprocation? Or do you feel empty, hallow, and resentful? .
Continuously choosing to put others before yourself without even batting an eye as to how you truly feel about the person/situation will always result in loss of Self. If Sarah ditched you every time you had plans with her in exchange for something “better” wouldn’t you give up on her after a while and try to find a new friend? Well, that’s how you start to feel about yourself over time after ditching your own needs for that of others. 💔
Stop ignoring your personal needs, desires, and goals. Start treating yourself with the same undivided love, devotion, compassion, and understanding you give to your “friends” and see what happens. More often than not, radical self love and self care always results in separation of dead-weight relationships (with others/self), habits, thought patterns, circumstances, etc. 💪
If someone can’t be ok with you taking time to yourself, then they’re truly NOT your “friend” to begin with. Friends help friends establish clear, healthy boundaries - regardless if it benefits them or not. Friends don’t question when you need a day to yourself to get your head straight and laundry finished. Friends DO ask about your goals. Friends DO ask about your mental health. Friends DO encourage and celebrate independence, integrity, and growth (to say the least). ☯️
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