Most of us keep an astonishingly long register of the words that have been used to hurt us. We remember every insult, every backhanded compliment, every inadvertent rudeness that’s ever been uttered in our direction by an ex-boyfriend or a little league coach or a complete stranger on the internet. Oddly enough, we remember so few of the words of praise bestowed on us by the people who truly know and love us. You know how this works: you put something out into the world and 99.9% of the feedback is fantastic. But instead of focusing on the huge majority of people who loved it, you zero in on the one person who said it wasn’t for them. Even though you say it doesn’t, it bothers you. With your deepest insecurities revealed (Is this person right? Does it suck and no one else will tell me the truth?) the comment worms its way into your subconscious until that whisper is amplified to loudspeaker decibels.
Here’s the thing: you are not for everyone. And you shouldn’t be. People that are everybody’s cup of tea are usually super boring. (This is an actual fact.) Do everything with love and compassion, but don’t be afraid of people not loving you in return. Your people are out there and they cannot wait to hear what you have to say. So turn the volume waaaay down on all the naysayers. And when you find the people whose words about you are actually worth remembering, crank that shit up to 11.
Whose voice is the loudest in your life?
Homemade artisan bread... I forgot to cut the slits so when I did remember I did it late and a little deep🙈 still tastes amazing! Swipe right to see what the loaves usually look like without the beautiful styled photo and fancy camera of course! Recipe makes two loaves 😉 #ilovetobake